We're redefining 'the talk'. It's time to have
The Porn Conversation at home

Conversation Guides

Parents and trusted adults, if you are ready to have The Porn Conversation but have no clue what to say, here are three age-appropriate guides to help.

View and download the conversation guides in English below. More languages to come! To request your language, contact us here.

8 to 11-years-old For 8 to 11- Year-Olds
8 to 11-years-old
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12 to 15-years-old For 8 to 11- Year-Olds
12 to 15-years-old
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16+ years old For 8 to 11- Year-Olds
16+ years old
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Erika's no-go list

The internet can be a wonderful tool for teens to learn, create and grow, to find and share interests, and communicate with friends, but it can be a risky place if misused. Just as you can teach safer sex practices to your teen, you can teach safer online practices.

By speaking candidly to our children about the dangers of the misuse of the internet and social media, we raise awareness of the presence of cyberbullying, sexual predators, online grooming, blackmail, digital abuse, and image-based sexual abuse - also known as “revenge porn”.

The truth is, what goes online, stays online. Through thoughtful dialogue we encourage our children to be mindful of their actions online and raise awareness about not only the dangers, but the support available to them.

Here are a few apps and sites we believe families should be aware of:

  • Adam4Adam
  • Badoo
  • Chatroulette
  • Discord
  • Fiesta
  • Grindr
  • Hot or Not
  • Holla
  • Houseparty
  • Instagram
  • Kik
  • Live.me
  • Meet.me
  • Omeglee
  • OnlyFans
  • Paltalk
  • Skout
  • Snapchat
  • Telegram
  • Tiktok
  • Tinder
  • Tumblr
  • Whatsapp
  • Whisper
  • Wishbone
  • Yubo

What Families Say

Parent Comments

The Porn Conversation made it easy to talk about porn with my daughter. I wasn't sure where to even begin!

Ashley K.

Parent of a 12 year-old, United States

Parent Comments

I consider myself a sex-positive parent and The Porn Conversation Conversation Guides brought up topics I didn't even consider to talk about with my teen but were so needed. It guided my family through some impactful conversations.

Renee S.

Parent of teens, United Kingdom

Resources

What Teenagers Are Learning From Online Porn

The New York Times

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How A Feminist Porn Director Gives Her Daughters “The Talk”

Refinery29

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If You Ignore Porn, You Aren't Teaching Sex Ed

The New York Times

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How do we talk to teens about sex in a world of porn?

The Guardian

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