What is squirting?
Let’s start with the basics - squirt happens during sexual arousal and is an expulsion of around 10 ml of a transparent liquid that comes from the bladder and exits via the urethral opening, the same as when you pee. The fluid can come out strongly as a “fountain” or more like a flow (in this latter case is called “gushing”). But first, let’s dive deep into vaginal fluids.
As research on AFAB bodies is not very extensive, until 2011 every fluid expulsion from the vagina was referred to as female ejaculation. However, female ejaculation and squirt are two different fluids that originate from distinct parts of the body. The first one comes mostly from the paraurethral glands, while the second one mostly from the bladder. It is also possible to squirt and ejaculate at the same time.
An estimate shows that 10 to 54% of people with vaginas experience ejaculation. The secretion is usually a small amount of thick, milky fluid. And, believe it or not, vaginal ejaculation shares a lot of similarities with semen, for example the presence of Fructose and the enzymes Prostate Specific Antigen and Prostatic Acid Phosphatase.
Where do the fluids come from? Is squirt pee?
The fluid released from a vagina comes from not only the bladder, but from the Skene's Glands too. The Skene’s glands, or paraurethral glands, are glans next to the urethra that produce most part of the female ejaculation (and some part of squirt too). So squirt is basically very diluted pee in which oftentimes you can find traces of ejaculation, meaning that the Skene's Glands are usually involved too.
This means that saying that squirt and pee are the same thing is substantially wrong. They share some similarities, like the presence of creatine and urea, but sharing components doesn’t mean they are the same substance. Also you can distinguish pee from squirt because squirt has usually no color and has a way milder odor and taste than pee.
We at TPC also wanna point out that even if what came out of your urethra was pee, it wouldn’t be shameful or wrong.
Firstly, some people suffer from urinary incontinence: during penetration the bladder usually gets pressed, some pee involuntarily may come out. This affects about 20-30% of people with vaginas.
Secondly, pee can be a turn on for some! Piss play is often referred to in the kink world as watersports but its proper name is urolagnia or urophilia. It's when you're excited or turned on by the thought, sight, taste or feel of urine. The term watersports is used as a general definition for all those activities that entail play with urine, typically involving urinating on or being urinated on by others. If you’d like to experiment with that practice, just remember to ask your partners and maybe put a towel underneath you or start by doing it in the shower.
As with many other phenomena in life, the general public opinion on squirting is divided between considering it “gross” or sexualizing it. According to some recent insights published by Pornhub, squirting is one of the most popular categories overall across the Pornhub website. But despite the great interest in it, squirting is still deeply misunderstood and stereotyped, because porn is the only source of information and sex education most people have.
What are some myths created about squirting created by porn?
Squirting is the same as having an orgasm
Is squirting an orgasm? No! Squirting can happen at any time during sexual play. A lot of people experience squirting without orgasm and the other way around. It is true, though, that usually people report feeling more pleasure when squirting, but it’s not always the case.
Squirting only happens only during penis in vagina penetration
Many times a penis can’t properly stimulate the clitoris or the g-spot, one of the most pleasurable areas of a vagina. That’s why using toys or hands can be way more pleasurable and can trigger the emission of fluids from the urethra.
Squirting means ejecting an enormous amount of fluid all over the place
Again, this is not always true. Squirt can go from a few drops of a viscous milky substance to full-blown gush of transparent liquid and can be anything in between these two. Probably many people with vaginas experienced squirt or ejaculation without even realizing as the quantity or the nature of the liquid didn’t comply with the stereotype.
Squirting happens just as is seen in porn
Many times what you see in free online porn is simply just pee: performers can achieve this by drinking a lot of fluids before the performance and releasing them via the urethra on demand for the shot. This can be entertaining and pleasurable to watch for some, but it’s important to remember that it’s just a performance, which is often different from real life sex.
Only vaginas can squirt
Interestingly enough, this is false. Since 2018 we have scientific evidence that proves that penis owners can squirt too! If the penis is stimulated even after ejaculation, it can release a liquid, very similar to vaginal squirt, triggered by the contraction of the prostate and the pelvic striated muscles.
How can I squirt?
If you’d like to find out if you can squirt and learn how to do it you can try by simply creating a relaxing situation and finding your G-Spot. The G-Spot, or better called CUV area, stimulates the area close to your Skene’s Glands and may easily trigger highly pleasurable sensations and the contraction of the pelvic floor. You can achieve this either with a G-Spot sex toy (the curved ones) or by using your hands while squatting or standing. The G-Spot has a texture similar to a walnut and you can most easily find it using two fingers in a “come hither” motion (palm of your hand facing upwards, from the back toward the front of your body).
You can begin slowly and continue consistently to stimulate your CUV area, without changing the rhythm too much. You can rub it, thud it or press it, whatever you prefer! However, it’s not all about the G-Spot, vaginal and clitoral stimulation can bring you to squirt too.
You might feel weird at first, as if you have to pee yourself, and the first instinct might be to resist the impulse. You can learn the difference from peeing and squirting and slowly be able to let go of the resistance, following the messages that your body sends you.
The internet, and porn, is full of information about how amazing it feels like to squirt - this is not the case for everybody. Whether you can squirt or not, you involuntarily release urine, or you don’t enjoy squirting, it’s okay. Just be sure you create a safe space in which you and other people respect yourself and your partners during sex. And, most of all, have fun!