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It’s very likely that your kids are going to stumble upon porn
Kids and teenagers search for porn when they are curious about sex
Red tubes and online free porn sites are only one click away
At as young as 9, kids are accidentally stumbling across adult content
The Porn Conversations offers tools for parents to use to instigate the talk at home. Our mission is to give adults the opportunity to help kids and teens make smart and informed decisions regarding pornography. Today we need more than sex education at school - we need parents to have the porn conversation.
Porn can confuse teens about how sex connects with sensuality and relationships, often separating sex from emotions. It also gives teens unrealistic expectations about how to look and act. We need you to show them that sex is a lot more complex than what they see online.
It's key when you talk to your kids about sex and porn that you encourage understanding rather than just telling them not to watch it - because if you do that, they'll never talk to you about it.
We provide ideas and information for you to start a positive and educational conversation, including different documents for different age groups. And we believe the best people to educate your kids is you. We feel that through our experience we can offer some guidance.
Hi there! We are Erika Lust (Stockholm, 1977) and Pablo Dobner (Buenos Aires, 1970), a married couple living in Barcelona with our two beautiful daughters aged 6 and 9. Back in 2005 we started a production company to innovate the chauvinistic world of porn, creating content that is sex positive and relevant for women. We were concerned about women and couples not being able to find ethical adult cinema, so we decided to do it ourselves! Now we own a successful company and Erika Lust Films is the vanguard of smart, feminine and feminist erotic cinema.
However, now we are worried about something new: the easy access to crappy porn and horrible sites that kids and teenagers have. Kids are stumbling across porn at as young as 9 or 10 years old - and we need to take action. We've realised this can't be solved by banning bad porn, in the same way banning drugs hasn't helped in society either.
But we can teach, we can talk, we can make our kids aware and critical. So we are starting this project to help parents and teachers talk about online pornography with their kids and teens.
Don't be afraid, have #theporntalk with your daughters and sons. The sooner the better.
Erika and Pablo
Parents, teachers, educators, take action! If you are ready to have the talk but you have no clue about what to say, here are three guides to help you.
We have gathered videos and articles that will help you learn more about porn and the impact that it’s having today on the younger generations. If you find other interesting videos or articles, please share them with us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Erika Lust speaks at TEDxVienna on the effects of mainstream pornography, worrying about her own children and why porn needs to change to protect the younger generations.watch video
The School of life gives an articulate and nuanced view on the problems of mainstream pornography for adolescents and why banning it won't work, but making it better will.watch video
Documentary on young people and their views and experiences of porn, and how it has affected the way they choose to look and behave.watch video
Yana Tallon-Hicks is a pleasure-positive sex writer & educator who teaches consent-based sex education & sexual pleasure workshops. Here she explores what sexual stories our Porn Brains tell us and how do these stories both positively & negatively impact our real-life experiences.watch video
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Nicole Guaponne, 2016read more
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Letter from Sarah Griffiths, head of wellbeing, Dulwich Collegeread more
Akin Ojumu, 2014read more